How to have more fun riding when you're in reverse cowgirl, according to sex therapists

• To get into reverse cowgirl, the penetrating partner lies on their back.
• The receiving partner then mounts them while facing toward the penetrating partner's feet.
• You can make it sexier by using toys like rope, a cock ring, or a vibrator.

If you're looking for a sex position that gives the receiving partner the power and the penetrating partner an amazing view, look no further than reverse cowgirl. This variation of the tried-and-true cowgirl position is a fun way to switch things up and provide some solid G-spot stimulation.

In reverse cowgirl, the receiving partner can take control of their pleasure while feeling empowered and dominant on top, says Amanda Pasciucco, a doctorate in clinical sexology, certified sex therapist, and founder of Life Coaching and Therapy. The penetrating partner can lay back, relax, and enjoy the view.

Here's how to do the position, make it even sexier, and some variations. 

How to do reverse cowgirl 

Getting into this position is simple. Follow these steps from Jordan Soper, a licensed psychologist, certified sex therapist, and owner of The Center for Sexual Health and Wellness.

1. The penetrating partner lies flat on their back on the bed or other firm surface.

2. The receiving partner straddles their partner, kneeling and facing away from them.

3. Once the penis or strap-on is inserted, the partner on top can bounce up and down or grind back and forth. If they need some support, they can lean forward a bit and place their hands on their partner's legs.

How do you make reverse cowgirl sexier?

The reverse cowgirl position is sexy enough as it is, but here are some tips to make it even hotter and more pleasurable for all partners.

1. Less might be more

Soper says it's common for the penis or strap on to slip out in this position, and it's also possible for penetration to be too deep and hit the cervix. 

To prevent both of these issues, Soper says the partner on top should focus on smaller motions –– maybe going up and down just a couple of inches rather than all the way up and down. Of course, grinding is an option instead of bouncing, too.

2. Use lube

Using a lubricant in this position can help to amp up the pleasure, says Pasciucco. Especially if the partner on top is dealing with vaginal dryness, it will reduce friction and lower the risk of getting any microtears. Just make sure you use water-based lube if you're using latex condoms.

Best lubes for sex

Reverse cowgirl isn't the only position that can benefit from adding lube. Up you and your partner's pleasure with one of the best lubes that we've tested:

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3. Use an external clitoris toy

While the G-spot gets lots of love in this position, you don't have to ignore the clitoris. Pasciucco recommends that the person on top uses a vibrator on their clitoris while the partner on the bottom helps to hold their hips to keep the rhythm going.

4. Use a cock ring

Soper suggests using a stretchable, silicone vibrating cock ring in this position. Not only will this improve the bottom partner's erection and help them last longer, but the partner on top will benefit from the vibration, too. 

Rotate the cock ring so the vibrating part is towards the bottom partner's testicles so it will line up with the top partner's clitoris for optimal pleasure, Soper says.

5. Play with rope

If you're into restraints or power plays, you can incorporate some rope into this position. Depending on who you want to be restrained, Soper says you could either tie the top partner's hands together behind their back, or you can tie the partner down so they can only see, not touch. 

6. Let go of expectations

With reverse cowgirl (or any position, really) It's important to keep in mind that porn is not reality. Soper says while people may have some preconceived notions about how this position "should" look. 

Remember that people in porn are trained performers, and the position in real life doesn't need to look as dramatic as it does in porn. Plus, don't be afraid to take breaks, since this sex position is a workout for the partner on top. 

Reverse cowgirl variations

Whether you love reverse cowgirl or you're craving something a little different, here are three variations of the position.

Reverse cowgirl in a chair

For a variation that's easier on the top partner's joints and hips, try moving the position to a chair instead of the bed, Soper suggests. To get into the position: 

1. The penetrating partner sits upright in a chair.

2. The receiving partner gets in between their partner's legs, facing away from them, and lowers themselves onto their partner's penis or strap on. 

3. The partner on top can bounce up and down or grind while keeping their feet on the ground for support and stability.

Cowgirl

If penetration from behind isn't your thing, no worries. Cowgirl is a similar position that allows the partner on top to be in control, but instead of facing away from their partner, they are facing toward one another. Soper says to follow these steps:

1. The penetrating partner lays flat on the bed or a firm surface.

2. The receiving partner straddles their partner, facing toward them.

3. The partner on top lowers themself onto their partner's penis or strap on and then bounces up and down or grinds. 

Reverse cowgirl – anal

Since this position offers easy access to the top partner's butt, it can also work for anal sex. 

The positioning is exactly the same as reverse cowgirl for vaginal sex, but Pasciucco says you should follow these tips:

• Go slower than vaginal sex
• Never go into it right away
• Use lube and fingers first to warm up the anus before very slowly transitioning to inserting the penis or strap on

Insider's takeaway

Reverse cowgirl is a fun and relatively straightforward sex position that's pleasurable for both the penetrating and receiving partner. It offers the partner on top the chance to take control of their own pleasure.

As always with sex, make sure it's consensual for everyone involved and communicate with each other. Soper recommends talking with your partner(s) before, during, and after sex to make sure you both are feeling good troughout the entire experience. From there, enjoy the ride.  

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